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Thursday, January 26, 2006

Good Grief - I've Created a Monster!

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It started with a few email exchanges left over from my days. He lives outside of Annapolis and plays violin for the Annapolis Symphony; a retired music education teacher. His emails were witty and intelligent and I was drawn to his love for music.

He was anxious to meet and insisted on talking on the phone. I offered my cell number and he called the following night. What followed was 1 and 1/2 hours of hearing about his failed marriage; why he was forced to retire from teaching; listening to selections of music which were hard to appreciate over a cell phone. Ok - he seemed a bit over the top as far as trying too hard to make an impression. A few off color remarks were uttered but I let them slide although I was surprised to hear them on a first conversation. He began a barrage of emails and calls to me while at work the next day. That night I mentioned that I really cannot take personal calls during work hours but I take me lunch from 12-1 and am sometimes in the office during this time. I also cautioned him that (1) I go to bed early and would prefer not receiving phone calls after 9 pm (2) my mother was spending the weekend with me and I would prefer not receiving ANY calls while she is here.

Four times he called over the weekend with a continued stream of emails. Luckily I have Caller ID and did not pick up. The evening calls - after 10 pm continued. The first few days this week my work phone began ringing at 11:55 and continued through the lunch hour - now he simply calls any time of the work day. The last three days I have averaged 5 office calls with messages, 2 cell phone, 2 home phone calls and 4-5 email messages.

I WANT THIS MAN OUT OF MY LIFE! Is he CRAZY?? Who has time for all this?

My daughter suggested I let him off easy by blaming myself for not being enterily able to meet his committment needs. (Yikes!) So that is exactly what I said to an email tonight. As I hear my phone ring in the background (as he must be on break at Orchestra practice) I think of the email waiting for him.

Press here!

--The Leading Lady-- | 8:45 PM | 21 comments

Monday, January 09, 2006

Christmas Thoughts & Photos!

Here is a cute one of my condo all decorated for Christmas!

A couple of neat presents!

I won my very first (in my life!) door prize at our office Christmas party - $100 gift card to Nordstorm! So I bought some insurance against any snow storms happening in 2006! Comfy snug 'toe warmers'.

Now here is the fun gift!! Ever since I moved from Maryland and sold my trusty piano I have been without any musical assistance with my Singers' repertoire. Lots to learn to understand: how I can include percussion, different orchestra instrument sounds, timing and I don't even know what else!! Yes, you see a 'WICKED' song book as I'm trying to learn some of these pieces. Going to the Kennedy Center production this week and can't wait to be immersed in the wonderful sound and performance!

What Christmas would be complete without a little sibbling rivilry!

This is the top of my Christmas tree before my Christmas Eve dinner - one lone little angel announcing the festivities!

Sometime during the laughter, eating and reminiscing, MommaK's kindergarden star with her picture attached, somehow crawled up the tree from it's designated station to take out the angel.

Her two sibblings are correctly positioned below her in what might be considered 'pecking order'.

As I was cleaning up after the party I noticed that the MIDDLE child could not allow this to happen and most likely took out her sister as she was walking out the door.....behind her. HA!

The youngest, being the baby, is quite secure in her position - I would assume!

Now, I must brag on myself because I just took on a project that scared me to death! I bought a 2 drawer UNASSEMBLED file cabinet. Now just how hard could it be - for someone who has virtually no mechanical sense. As the song goes "I know what I was feeling but what was I thinking?" I was feeling like "WOMAN" - liberated female who can attack any job, large or small, (as long as there isn't a lot of muscle required!). How hard could it be???

The box was frickin heavy - I had the store load it in my car and I used my trusty grocery cart to lug it up to my apartment where I deposited it on the living room floor.

I was not going to panic at the 10 page detailed instructions nor the 100+ pieces involved. Logic told me to first:

1) sort out all the pieces by type

2) confirm from the instructions that I had everything that was listed.

Then I began to go to page at a time. And it started making sense and was actually way COOL. I always wondered how carpenters attached two pieces of wood without leaving a trace! I learned about how a CAM can be inserted and locked into place. I was just amazed with each step of the process. The instructions could not have been clearer - pictures are 1 million words! I would have finished it last night but it involved hammering certain pieces in place and the hour was 9:00 pm - must be considerate of my neighbors. I waited until 9:30 this morning and proceeded with the rest of my work - unfortunately receiving shouts from either upstairs or downstairs to stop the noise (go figure!). Inappropriate so I continued on - luckily no pounding at my door. So here is the product of my work:

Now, I do humbly recognize my limitations and will not mess with larger projects and certainly anything to do with electricity. I have been hunting for just the right chandalier or light fixture for my dining alcove (not actually a room). I found it this weekend on Smart Bargains and have asked my magnificently talented SIL to install for me!

I just LOVE Tiffany anything! What do you think?

Retail Value: $359.00
Our Price: $109.99
You Save 69% (Wha-hoo!)

--The Leading Lady-- | 11:43 AM | 12 comments

Tuesday, January 03, 2006

New Year's Thoughts

Should I dare look back first over the past year to see what 2005 resolutions were met?

At the beginning of 2005 I had already made the sound but difficult decision to end my marriage but was still sharing a house - if living on separate floors constitutes living together. I had just been handed the green light, the shocker of all 'ego out of control' decisions. For fear of being part of a disastrous screw-up on the sale of our house, my husband preferred to give up all interest in a simple concise note: "You can have your money and your house and I'll keep my money and the land at the beach". It was too good to be true - but yet it was true and matured into a signed and notarized Separation Agreement.

The next few months were a whirlwind of downsizing, packing, selling and giving away until I could squeeze 30 years of living in a large house into a small 2 bedroom condo. Yes, we did it girls!! Not without the help of my daughters!!

The settlements and move were stressful but uneventfully smooth. Summer followed with decorating and 'comfortizing' my new home.

I am extremely receptive to the fact that I don't have any major events, tasks or decisions to make in 2006 - at least that I know of as yet. Although it is possible that a new job opportunity may come my way - I'm in the 'courting' stage right now and enjoying the celebrity status. If something comes from it I'll consider using it as a leverage in my current job (maybe).

So I can think about some 2006 refinements............

1) Always on the top of my list is getting in shape. I've joined Curves and have promised myself to show up 3 times a week. It's easy and quick and convenient.

2) Focus on healthy: (1) get that damn mamogram (2) visit my doctor/dentist - due for a checkup

3) Give my aging mother more attention - call her more often - increase the visits and invites over. If she goes to the beach this summer - plan on being there every other weekend to do her shopping. She's failing noticably and I'm wondering if this might be her last year with us. She fears it herself and she's fighting to be able to make it to her granddaughter's wedding.

4) One of my 2005 resolutions was to find a good Church and I feel quite happy with the Church at which I sing each Sunday. I am not immersed - there is a comfortable distance which I like. I want to take from the service what I feel I can relate to without signing the dotted line of total doctrinal commitment. I'd like 2006 to be a year of inward reflection to learn meditation which will both de-stress me as well as keep me in focus of who I want to be.

5) I'm struggling with this one but I think it's important to bring up. I want to try and be a positive force in our family dynamics - I think we are all feeling a little tired of the negative exchanges that occurs on a regular basis. I know I can't change the personalities involved nor can I whitewash hurtful comments or omissions. But I need to practice .....simple 'charity'. In some cases, that might mean I resort to silence. Still an improvement. Our family isn't perfect - there are few out there that are! But we have been blessed with a goodly number of normal, loving members - I grateful for this gift!

6) Last year with my music I dared to dance and even MC a show. This year I would like to work on my keyboard skills. Maybe by this summer I can give the family a demonstration!!

7) I think this will be a year of learning about myself - I'm not going to actively seek out the man of my dreams. I'm trusting he'll find me!

8) As in every year for the past 32 years, I resolve to be a good mother to my wonderful daughters. Each year brings opportunities for me to give back to them the joy they have given me. May it continue for another 32 years!

--The Leading Lady-- | 9:06 PM | 10 comments

Sunday, January 01, 2006

Happy New Year!!

The very best of 12 new months to my family and friends!!

Irish toast
In the New Year, may your right hand always be stretched out in friendship, never in want.

Movie: "When Harry Met Sally", Harry Burns
And I love that you are the last person I want to talk to before I go to sleep at night. And it's not because I'm lonely, and it's not because it's New Year's Eve. I came here tonight because when you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible.

Sydney Smith
Resolve to make at least one person happy every day, and then in ten years you may have made three thousand, six hundred and fifty persons happy, or brightened a small town by your contribution to the fund of general enjoyment.

Your Merry Christmas may depend on what others do for you. But your Happy New Year depends on what you do for others.

Aisha Elderwyn
Every new year people make resolutions to change aspects of themselves they believe are negative. A majority of people revert back to how they were before and feel like failures. This year I challenge you to a new resolution. I challenge you to just be yourself.

F. M. Knowles, A Cheerful Year Book
He who breaks a resolution is a weakling; He who makes one is a fool.

G. K. Chesterton
The object of a new year is not that we should have a new year. It is that we should have a new soul.

T. S. Eliot
For last year's words belong to last year's language and next year's words await another voice. And to make an end is to make a beginning.

Benjamin Franklin
Be always at war with your vices, at peace with your neighbors, and let each New Year find you a better man.

Edgar A. Guest
A happy New Year!
Grant that I May bring no tear to any eye
When this New Year in time shall end
Let it be said I've played the friend,
Have lived and loved and labored here,
And made of it a happy year.

Ella Wheeler Wilcox
What can be said in New Year rhymes,
That's not been said a thousand times?
The new years come, the old years go,
We know we dream, we dream we know.
We rise up laughing with the light,
We lie down weeping with the night.
We hug the world until it stings,
We curse it then and sigh for wings.
We live, we love, we woo, we wed,
We wreathe our prides, we sheet our dead.
We laugh, we weep, we hope, we fear,
And that's the burden of a year.

HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!!!!!!!!

Thanks for the great times together, Dick. I cried for you last night!

--The Leading Lady-- | 5:12 PM | 3 comments

Thursday, December 29, 2005

Where does the time go!

Maybe if I start again with the Thursday Thirteen, I'll start to get into the grove again!

1) I am recovering today from a two week marathon of preparation and delivery of a mega work proposal which I am happy to say was successfully delivered today.........followed by recoup drinks at the 'swank-i-fied 1941 Club' (or was it the 1491 Club?- who cares?) Another notch in my belt as a precurser to presenting my new position model of 'client executive' to upper management.

2) Ah Christmas holidays! Good memories, great gifts and wonderful food! I am enjoying my:

a) new 'do everything but wash the dishes' printer/scanner/copier!

b) My set of Karaoke CDs which will help me learn some numbers so I'm prepared the next time the 'sisters' take me out!

c) the wonderful adventure that lies ahead when I figure out all the inticacies of my new keyboard! Already ordered some music online and hope to state taking pre-programed lessens soon.

3) Saw lots of my daughters - all three - this holiday season which I consider a priceless gift!

4) Survived another hectic season of singing with 9 different engagements in December AND (I must have been crazy to volunteer for this!) I co-hosted our Singers Christmas show this year. Whew! Way too much memorization for this brain - but I figure I strengthened the old noddin and moved the big "A" further down the road. My family braved another production and claimed I did ok!

5) Been a long time since I sang in a choir but joined a local Church with a fabulous choir in September and we performed on Christmas Eve and again on Christmas morning. So glad my daughter and mother could hear us!

6) I'm being courted by a very prestegious brokerage firm for a coveted position including a salary of 'blinking proportion'! It's nice to not be in any hurray and be in charge of the process. Doubt that I will take it seriously but hope to use it as leverage where I currently work.

7) New Year's Eve will be a simple night of dinner and socializing with Mom, sister and some of my Mother's friends. I'll spend the night in her sauna apartment and allow her to pamper me! Maybe next year I can tell you I plan to dance all night with a special someone!

8) Gearing up for the New Year's list of resolultions. I look forward to the 'clean start' that January brings. Being a better blogger is one of them!

9) Had a houseful of daughter and friends last night and relished the laughter and stories. Delivered her to the airport this morning for the trip back to Nashville and on with life!

10) Tomorrow night I'm checking out a 'Jazz' place nearby with a friend and next week I am seeing 'WICKED' with two Singer friends. It will be hard to contain myself - I'll want to sing along! This musical has taken DC like a storm! Tickets sold out in 7 hours!

11) I'm glad to hear MommaK is considering an escape away next Christmas - well deserving! Kudos to a fabulous dinner, gifts and time together.

12) I'm already feeling like I may not have been generous enough to my little girls - feel the need to do more shopping. Maybe have them over...........Won a Nordstrom gift card and ordered some snazzy boots online - guaranteed to keep the toes warm!

13) Since I only enjoyed 3 hours of sleep last night..........I'm heading there with a calm sense of accomplishment tonight!

--The Leading Lady-- | 8:02 PM | 4 comments

Wednesday, November 09, 2005

Time Off!

I have almost two weeks of 'PTO' left this year and, with December being our busiest month of the year (where no vacation is possible), I have decided to take a few days - somewhat spontaneously! Tomorrow, Friday and Monday - who whoo!!

I will have 4 houseguests - two daughters, a future son-in-law (one of these days!) and my brother - squeezed into my two bedroom ONE BATH condo. Remember the days of only one bathroom in your home and each person had an assigned time - almost like clockwork? Maybe I might need to set up some such schedule. I could put one of these on the balcony. ...

So tomorrow is my cleaning catchup day - run to the grocery store and possibly check in at the hair salon for a haircut and manicure. Friday I pick up daughter #3 in the AM and we'll probably scout out some early morning shopping for just the right dress for her. Then we swing back and pick up big brother in mid-afternoon (I live 10 minutes from Dulles!) A fun filled weekend awaits us - to be reported in detail at a later date!


Two of my Singer friends and I were chatting with another Singer who has volunteered to help us update our group's website. She mentioned that it will be difficult for her to find the time to devote to this job because she is taking a class which consumes most of her time. The course subject is how to effectively set up your own business. I asked her what type of business and she explained that her niche involves the care and maintenance of cats after an owner's death as well as the selling of 'cat' funeral packages. As my jaw dropped, she went on to explain that she will be advertising her services to cat owners who are very concerned about the welfare of their animals should they pass first. I took quick looks at my two friends - assuming at first that this was just a joke. I was a half of inch away from saying "yeah, right, now what is the real business you are researching?" but there was only serious faces on my friends - no sign of any suppressed "Baaa Haa Haa" which was begining to crawl up to my throat - ready to explode.

Her 'how to" literature for cat owners details what to place in the final Will and Testiment that will provide funding and transfer of ownership to her firm. She will set up a network of foster-care cat caretakers who will, for a fair price, adopt the darling kitties for a contracted period of time. The contract will absorb the costs of regular salon visits, special dietary needs and vet vists/meds.
Also, within the contract are detailed instructions for the funeral and/or simple burial of the beloved pet from the cost-conscious 'wrap 'em in newspaper and pocket the $' to the memorial of all memorials ..............

I will keep you updated on how her business takes off!

--The Leading Lady-- | 9:06 PM | 11 comments

Monday, November 07, 2005

Happy Monday!

What a week of stress, craziness, more stress and then loads of fun!

I'm talkin about work, singing, 'relationships' and then finally spending quality time with my granddaughters!

A week of mounting pressure with meetings, deadlines, settlements and renewals.
One significant highlight still has me scratching my head in amazement! The very biggest cheese in our national company( the COO) came calling to visit our office and MY account was chosen for a 'field visit' which required me to drive with him and other important people of similar rank for a 45 minute excursion to Maryland and back. It all went off fairly well and I now am a 'person of recognition'. We'll see where that takes me!

The show is getting closer; music must be memorized; attend to ticket sales; collect dues etc etc.
We had a fundraiser last Wednesday night at the Silver Diner. We can earn 20% of all profits during the hours of 6:30 and 9:30pm - over and above what was made the previous year on that night. The key is to invite your families and friends and pack the restaurant during these hours. Five of us played 'hostess' and seated the guests. Not a bad gig - it actually was quite fun and we probably made $300 to $400. Beats washing cars!

I pulled the plug (I hope) on two guys who just won't take the obvious hints that I'm not interested! Not being the type to 'hurt feelings', I just become evasive and 'remote'. Phones go unanswered and emails ignored. I have trouble saying ' hey look, the chemistry isn't there so take off!' Friday night I met a guy for dinner with whom I had been emailing for a couple of weeks. What do you do when you arrive at the restaurant and can see that your 'date' is far from the likeness of his picture both in age and GIRTH? As he teetered on the curb about 10 feet from me I tried to enter the restaurant - acting as if I hadn't seen him. 'Barbara, is that you?!' Oh Crap! Luckily he was an easy conversationalist which helped to pass the obligatory time. I am not opposed to 'girth' on a man if it is solid, will kept, and manly. Not so with this gentleman. As he talked and talked and talked and as I tried hard to keep my eyes from closing (after two Margaritas!) , I knew that soon I would have to deal with the awkward walk to my car and was wishing I was home behind locked doors. Oh but it wasn't over - I was stalked with phone calls that night and three times the next day - not to mention emails! Now I ask you, would it have been proper or fair of me to 'cut to the chase' either before we even walked into the restuarant; during the meal; or at the end of the meal? Help me out with etiquette!
I'm happy to say that he accepted the 'dear john letter' graciously and wished me luck!

I drove down to pick up my girls Saturday and enjoyed ...........
1) Shopping at 'THE Mall'. CP, the 10-year old is already a veteran shopper - taking after her mother. I am amazed at how grown-up she is! How she is very attentive to her hair and makeup (very minimal!) - her walk is more feminine; she has a totally different air about her when she's in the shopping mode. Discriminative buyer! Smells a sale! Insists on paying with her own money! GP, the 6 year-old, is scouting out all the stuffed animals as she knows she'll melt me into buying at least one for her!
2) Dinner at Red Robin - the ultra cool hamburger joint. Where one's eyes are much bigger than one's stomach!
3) Quick stop at Target to try to find Dad a BD present - no luck there but a cool CD was found.
4) Then to the movies to see 'Chicken Little'. The vote was 2 for Chicken Little and 1 for Dreamer. I lost. But Chicken Little lived up to it's fanfare! There was enough adult humor in it to keep me laughing as much as the girls! One of the better Disney films. The characters are all very lovable.
5) We switched bedrooms since CP wanted to play her CD game and GP needed the TV and the light on to sleep. I collapsed in the guest bedroom!
6) Sunday brought Church (my how well they behaved while I was in the choir!), then a quick lunch and off to see a live performance of "The Emperor's Clothes'. More suited for the younger kids but none-the-less well done. CP was even picked to be in a small part!
7) Found the ideal gift for Dad at Toys-R-Us. Hmmmmm
8) One last walk to the shopping center to visit our favorite Hallmark store and stop for ice cream at Cold Stone.
End of the weekend - I think they had a great time!

--The Leading Lady-- | 8:28 PM | 8 comments